What I’ve learnt is one should resist reading another person’s diary – particularly a good friend’s or close acquaintance. In diaries people usually portray their lives quite dramatically whereas their real lives are usually far more compromizing. You may regret reading a friend’s dramatic characterizations about you – especially since they made such characterization with a full expectation of privacy. They chose to say it in their diary because they chose not to say it to your face.
Similarly, if by chance you and your gang of friends have been a target of Big Brother do not listen to wiretaps of your friends’ private conversations; in particular their intimate conversations with their significant others about you – for rarely is a wiretapee cautioned “if you don’t have anything nice to say about xxxxxx, don’t saying anything about xxxxxxx”. As such, you’ll soon learn they don’t say much nice about you in private. While such put-downs and criticisms of friends is common among partners (you and your partners likely say nasty shit about others yourselves), it is unlikely upon reading your pal calling you a “complete jerk” that you’ll possess the ability to keep an understanding emotional distance. Regardless of how human such nasty talk among partners is, you’ll still find yourself hurt to the quick when you actually read the nasty stuff a friend says about you in private.
Bottom line – if you value your friends, respect their privacy. Listen to what they tell you face-to-face, and definately, resist your curiosity to appraise yourself of anything else they’ve said about you. Believe me, reading what a friend’s diary says about you is like total instant karma for your the breach of their private space. Do the right thing and you’ll feel better about your friends, and yourself.
Following 9-11 the Bush Administration started deporting refugees who’d acquired criminal records while in the U.S.A. One group of refugees so targetted were young Cambodians whose families had fled from the Khmer Rouge regime during the 70s-80s. One group of mostly younger males has coalesed into an amazing team that engages “in intensve, risk reduction based injection drug users [and sex workers] outreach and education through peer related connection”. KORSANG is now well into its forth year of service. Keep an eye open for a kickass video about their work on the streets of Phenom Pehn.
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